"He was always a charming, charismatic guy," said one Brooklyn guy who knew him when he was a capo under Carmine (Junior) Persico (left) during the 1980s when both were out and about.

Hollywood fits Donny Shacks, who has been into disguises for a long time.

"He even dressed in women's clothes a few times to do some work for Junior in the '60s," said a law enforcement source.

Montemarano and his crewmate Gennaro (Jerry Lang) Langella, the source said, wore dresses and wigs for a rubout in South Brooklyn during the bloody Profaci-Gallo war in the 1960s. (right)

And Hollywood has become a second home to Hurley, who no longer hangs out with Mickey Blue Eyes actor Hugh Grant. Montemarano relocated there in 1996 after he was released from federal prison where he served 11 years for racketeering. Two

Montemarano, now 63, was sighted in Beverly Hills dining and holding hands with the 35-year-old Hurley, who was recently voted the Sexiest Woman In The World 2001 by the English edition of GQ magazine.

Their relationship may be professional, or social, or both. Some old court documents and FBI transcripts indicate that Montemarano can be Mr. Charming, who truly cares for his women and always has them in mind when opportunity knocks.

On Sept. 4, 1982, Donny called Jerry Lang from his girlfriend's Bensonhurst home. After a rambling, cryptic conversation, ostensibly about Colombo family business, Langella asked whether Donny would be coming out that night.

"I figure I'll stay home," said Donny. "I was trying to get a limousine to send Janet (name withheld by Gang Land) and her mother and (another woman) to Atlantic City. It was her mother's birthday."

"What are you going to be home alone then?"
"Yeah," said Montemarano.

Two weeks later, on Sept. 17, Donny called Janet to check for messages. She told him two guys, a Don and a Joe called. He seemed uninterested, then abruptly changed the subject. It took her a while to get what he was

"Listen, you want to go over to Jo Jo's ...." he asked.
"What?" said Janet.

Donny: "You want to go with Jo Jo?" (Jo Jo could be one of many wiseguys with that nickname. The FBI speculated it may have been Joseph Corozzo, then a Gambino associate with a piece of a Kennedy Airport air freight company.)
Janet: "Where?"

D: "To see what is good at the apartment.  He took a load yesterday."
J: "What do you mean to see what is good? I don't know what you're talking about."

D: "In my apartment on Bay 28th."
J: "Oh, he took a load. Where did he take it?"

D: "To the club. You know. The machine gun stuff."
J: "Oh."

D: "You ready now?"
J: "No."

D: "How long?"
J: "Half hour. I was going to Wife Beaters Anonymous."

In other words, city hoodlums and wannabes who crossed the Hudson River to become made men because the five families didn't think they were good enough would not get the respect that came with being an initiated member of "Our Thing."

Sclafani often drove his boss -- underboss John Johnny Boy) D'Amato (right) -- to meet with Gotti at the Ravenite Social Club. But he was treated with disdain, a lowly "mutt from Brooklyn who ran to Jersey to get made because he couldn't make the grade in New York," said one law enforcement source. (D'Amato was whacked in 1992, but that's another story.)

"He wasn't the first New York guy they thought was a mutt, but he was the last one they would accept as a made guy in New York," the source said. "And the other New York families supported the rule."

Sclafani, 63, never forgot the sleight from the Gambinos and other New York families. His resentment simmered and was the root of his tape-recorded

They were on their way to a sitdown with powerful New York gangsters and felt they were going into the meeting as their equals. In the last decade or so, the New Jersey mob had expanded, had avoided any major federal racketeering prosecutions, had gotten away with several murders and unlike the city mobs, had gradually begun adding new members.

"The (New York wiseguys) make rumors about the Jersey guys," Sclafani complained to Rotondo. " 'They're farmers,' (they say)....but they don't know. They know now," said Sclafani.

In 1991, sources said, before Gambino underboss Salvatore (Sammy Bull) Gravano defected, he and several other wiseguys ridiculed Sclafani for having been an MP, when they were all in the Metropolitan Correctional Center, awaiting trial. He was there for refusing to testify before a federal grand jury investigating a Gotti plot to whack a DeCavalcante soldier, Gaetano (Corky) Vastola.

"He said that he had been an MP in the Army," the source said. "Sammy told him, 'That’s the same as being a cop. We don’t make cops. Don't tell that story or they'll kill you.'"

Sclafani lived to tell many stories, but unlike Gravano, Sclafani didn't tell any on his friends. He's still got his self-respect; Gravano's got drug cases -- he's already pleaded guilty in one -- that will send him away for much more than the five years he did for 19 murders.